“What are you afraid of?” author Bob Mayer asked at a writing conference, “because that’s what’s holding you back as writers.”
At the time, it was social media–mastering new technology, committing to cranking out a weekly post. But I started a blog, and am glad I did. Since my first blogpost I’ve made new friends, discovered photographic storytelling, which I love, and crossed a whopper off this writer’s to-do list.
Marriage was another commitment that terrified me, but I faced that fear too.
It took seven years before Thom and I felt brave enough to assume the awesome responsibility of parenthood. It’s the most joyful, most difficult, most rewarding, and most important undertaking we’d ever signed on for, or ever will.
Whether we choose them ourselves or take what fate throws our way, the most daunting experiences are often the most edifying.
The most challenging ones tend to be the most rewarding.
With the toughest climbs come the best views.
After the kids were old enough to change their own diapers, we thought could rest on our laurels, but there was an unexpected twist to the parent/child relationship.
We raised kids who challenge themselves. Bea watched her big brother do his math homework, and designed her own “Really Hard Math Problem.”
As they tested their own mettle, and created their own challenges…
…we were forced out of our comfort zones just to keep up.
Thom and I would never have chosen to go to the Amazon jungle if the kids hadn’t been keen to go.
It was hard to watch my kids twist and turn like little spiders on a web as they climbed 200 feet up into the canopy to zipline. And for the first (and probably last) time in my life, I went ziplining too. You never know when someone might need a bandaid or some bug repellant.
Only for my kid would I board a hot air balloon in Cappadocia, another thing I swore I’d never do. But it’s good to feel a fire in your belly and rise above your fears.
We are not extreme travelers. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: most of the adventures I have are in my own mind. But for the sake of my kids, I’ve put on my big girl panties and donned a hard hat once or twice.
Sometimes you have to throw caution to the wind.
I appreciate people who can lure me out of my comfort zone.
Sometimes it’s good to commit to a path with unexpected twists and bends.
I’m sure I’m a better person for it. And if nothing else, Life Outside The Comfort Zone provides great material for a writer.
All images and words copyright 2014 Naomi Baltuck.
NAOMI BALTUCK ~ is a Contributing Editor and Resident Storyteller here
at Bardo. She is a world-traveler and an award-winning writer, photographer, and story-teller whose works of fiction and nonfiction are available through Amazon HERE. Naomi presents her wonderful photo-stories – always interesting and rich with meaning and humor – at Writing Between the Lines, Life from the Writer’s POV. She also conducts workshops such as Peace Porridge (multicultural stories to promote cooperation, goodwill, and peaceful coexistence), Whispers in the Graveyard (a spellbinding array of haunting and mysterious stories), Tandem Tales, Traveling Light Around the World, and others. For more on her programs visit Naomi Baltuck.com.
An inspirational post, Naomi. Thank you. I’ve got NOT challenging my comfort zone down to a fine art, but I know all you say is true.
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What a great post, Naomi. Have you tried using slide shows to illustrate your oral story telling? So much of story telling is the expressions and gestures of the story teller, and pictures may be a frustrating distraction.
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It’s always interesting the way our kids prod and push us along and the way our creative efforts are supported by our internal challenge, won or not. This is a great post, Naomi. Thank you for always making us smile while we take our spoonful of inspiration. Bravo!
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It was interesting talking to my siblings recently about our parents’ ‘fortress’ of comfort: how we challenged it, when & if they were willing to break down some of those walls, what they might feel like protecting and why. It’s good to turn those searchlights on ourselves, of course, when that discussion’s done!
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